Create Rapid Rapport With NLP

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by Learn NLP At Home on November 2, 2010

Hello! Today’s NLP tip is one of the most valuable tools you can learn – the ability to quickly build rapport with others.

Most of the highly successful people in this world are masters at building instant rapport with others.

You can call it charisma, likeability or good conversation, the fact is, thanks to NLP, their method for creating rapport with others can be modeled and mastered down to a science.

They might do this naturally, but anyone who is willing to learn can become their own master at rapid rapport – enabling them to influence people and control the outcome of any situation.

Many top salespeople know that building rapport with their prospects is critical to closing the sale. However, it is such a valuable skill that people in all walks of life should learn the art of building rapport quickly.

Create Rapport  (In ANY Situation)

The basic principle at the heart of the rapid rapport technique is that people like others who are similar to them.

The person we each know best and trust the most is ourselves, which is why we find it easier to trust and like people who are similar.

There are countless ways to quickly build rapport with someone. Perhaps you have the same first name, attended the same school, or work in the same profession. Maybe you have a similar sense of humor, and both laugh at the same situation; either way, you instantly feel more at ease with them because you can relate on a certain level.

The REAL trick in building rapport, however, is to use NLP to stealthily create rapport in situations where it is not already present.

Mastering the NLP rapid rapport technique is as simple as learning to fine tune your senses and pick up on another

person’s cues.

By cluing in to a person’s physiology, the tonality in their voice and the words they use, you are given a blueprint to the way their mind works.

Once you understand how their mind is working, you can match and mirror their own cues to subtly convince them that you are just like them.

World-class negotiators, talented public speakers, and even dating instructors all use this same method to build rapid rapport – by learning the step-by-step process through NLP, so can YOU.

2 Covert Rapport ‘Tricks’

The next time you are talking to someone, pay careful attention to their nonverbal cues. Notice how they are standing (leaning against something, completely upright and alert, slouching with their hands in their pockets, etc.) or sitting (whether they have their legs crossed, whether they are leaning forward or backward, arms crossed or not, etc.).

Casually mirror their posture, stance and lean without being obvious. A slight forward lean will mirror their excitement or interest and a crossing your leg casually like theirs will put them at ease.

You can also listen to the language they use to figure out if they are an auditory, visual or kinesthetic person. If he uses phrases like, “I see what you mean”, “I picture it as…” and “Let’s take a look…” he is referring to visual representations.

In turn, you can use visual-based phrases to let him know that you too are a visual person, and are similar to him in that way; building instant rapport without him ever knowing it was a conscious effort on your part.

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3 NLP “Rules” To Live By

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by Learn NLP At Home on November 2, 2010

Are you ready  to learn 3 empowering “rules” that you can adopt today to live a more empowering life?


In Neuro-linguistic programming these “rules” I am referring to are called presuppositions and they are convenient assumptions to make about the world around you.

Why would you want to assume things about the world around you?

Well… because if they are empowering assumptions this will help you live a more empowered life where you are free to choose your destiny and lead the life you want.

By simply adopting these assumptions and having them in the back of your mind you will soon find that you begin to look at the world around you with more clarity than before.

So, let’s begin!

#1 There Is No Failure – Only Feedback

This is by far my favorite of the 14 NLP presuppositions.

Imagine how you would live your life if you knew that–no matter what–you wouldn’t fail.

This is a nice reminder to live for your true passion and, very simply, give it a shot!

Now of course there is one major caveat to this rule and that is: you must learn from everything you try. That is how you get the feedback so that you can adapt for your next attempt.

So, become curious about the things around you and then attempt, learn and attempt again!

#2 The Meaning Of Communication Is The Response You Get

Have you ever tried to explain something to someone and they just don’t seem to get it?

This NLP presupposition is a quick reminder that you are in charge of your results with communication.

Of course the easy thing to do is to just blame the other person for not “getting it”.

And, unfortunately, some people will go their entire lives blaming their poor results on others.

This presupposition goes way beyond a simple interaction with someone because it applies to our non-verbal

communication as well.

Remember- you are always communicating something, so learn how to do it as effectively as possible and be in

control of the results you want.

#3 Resistance Is Due To A Lack Of Rapport

This original NLP presupposition referred to the interaction between NLP practitioners and their clients.

However, it can be applied to a myriad of personal interactions.

In other words, any resistance you encounter when communicating with someone (your boss, your kids, your spouse, etc.) can be attributed to a lack of rapport.

The ability to build rapport with someone very quickly is an incredibly valuable skill for all areas of your life.

So, take control today and practice becoming the most effective communicator you can!

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Use NLP To Get What You Want

November 2, 2010
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In this article you are going to learn about one of the biggest mistakes people make that stop them from having the life they want. And then I will give you insight into the foundation of NLP that you can use today to become healthier, make more money and have more fulfilling relationships. Please don’t let the simplicity of this […]

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